Choosing A Spouse

Some General Guidelines for Those Seeking a Mate.

I hope this helps but above all things WAIT ON GOD!

1. Young Man……Young Woman-----look for the opposite sex. NO same sex unions.

2. Believers marry other believers….it is a sin to develop a romantic relationship with unbelievers.

3. Look for biblical qualities

   1. Look for a Proverbs 31 woman, Look for a God fearing man.

   2. Does he/she love God’s word?

   3. Is he/she a student of God’s word?

   4. Is he/she teachable?

   5. Do you see this person demonstrating spiritual gifts you expect in a Christian?

   6. Can he/she take correction?

   7. Is there a drug problem? If so get them some help not a RING!

   8. Is he/she violent? If so get them some help not a RING!

   9. What is their relationship with their parents?

   10. How many sex partners has he/she had?

4. If you have Godly parents what do they think of that person?

   1. Do they welcome him or her?

   2. Do they think that this person is a wonderful compliment to your life?

   3. Do they think that this person is good for you and why?

5. What about your Godly friends or people in your Church.

   1. Do they think that this person is a compliment…or a cancer for you?

   2. Do they think that this person brings out the best in you?

   3. Are you a more faithful servant because of this person being in your life?

6. Do not rely on the quiver in you liver to tell you …….use your head as well as your heart.

   1. There should be things you like and dislike about that person. There should be evidence for and against marrying this person.

   2. This does not mean that you should not feel any romantic love for this person. We are assuming that as you are developing in the word of God, God will cause you to desire what He desires for you.

7. Note how things like sexual gratification, looks and money are not high on the list.

   1. We are not advocating marring someone who does not work or unattractive, but BIBLICAL priorities are important.